tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post1122725409692344489..comments2023-10-10T05:32:51.897-07:00Comments on the world according to b: 31Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-57635278298065049892007-10-28T08:44:00.000-07:002007-10-28T08:44:00.000-07:00Amen.Amen.Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08466885792177930052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-48466913106897570692007-10-27T13:34:00.000-07:002007-10-27T13:34:00.000-07:00Richard...true. Perception is key and mine is very...Richard...true. Perception is key and mine is very much in line with yours. And yes, I do belive that physical change is a principal gauge for what we consider old. <BR/><BR/>I also agree that people are not innately solitary. If people were, communities would not exist and this world would be scarcely populated. I think solitariness and solitude are very different though. People who fiercely exert a solitary existence, likely do (as you say) want to "withdraw and eliminate the source of pain," caused by relationships with others. <BR/><BR/>However, desiring solitude seems to be less complex. For me, it simply comes down to needing time with my thoughts and little/no distraction from others. And yes, as with you, I need to rest and recover, lick my wounds and/or quietly absorb all that I feel and appreciate. Different people desire/require different levels of solitude. But yes, a life without human interaction and relationships is not truly desirable.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01482104257045322117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-13652103872849416422007-10-25T14:18:00.000-07:002007-10-25T14:18:00.000-07:00I think it is a question of perception. When I was...I think it is a question of perception. When I was 20, someone who was thirty was older, but not excessively so. When I was 30, someone who was 40 was also not excessively older. Now that I am 40, people at 50 look pretty old to me.<BR/><BR/>I think it has to do with how our bodies change as we age. There is a period in our lives when we are pretty much the same. We mature, but there is no real indication of aging. Then it comes. <BR/><BR/>I think all people have a fundamental need to belong, so I don't think there is any instinct toward being solitary. I believe that people who choose to be solitary do so because they find dealing with other people overwhelming. Rather than suffering, they simply withdraw and eliminate the source of pain. I think they are lonely, but the pain of human contact is greater than the loneliness.<BR/><BR/>I need solitude, sometimes lots of it, to rest and recover. But I do not want to be alone.Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08466885792177930052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-10025278435924315872007-10-24T23:30:00.000-07:002007-10-24T23:30:00.000-07:00Richard...thank you. I seem soooo young to you? Ha...Richard...thank you. I seem soooo young to you? Haha. You really are not that much older! It's interesting that you mention that about my not being entirely solitary. I've been thinking about that quite a bit lately. While I really value my solitude, I am definitely not an absolute loner. And I have to say that I am touched that you made such an observation. It is intriguing how we can truly learn so much about one another in the blogosphere, isn't it? And yes, I do like flowers. I love beautiful things, especially naturally beautiful. <BR/><BR/>J.E....thank you. I really do like this week's song and yes, always appreciate the melancholy. <BR/><BR/>La Page Française...thank you for the birthday wishes! <BR/><BR/>Cavalock...thank you! <BR/><BR/>Kim...awww, you're so sweet. Yes, it does feel wonderful having such people to share my birthday with. I'm a luck girl.<BR/><BR/>Carra...you're too funny. You sent me an e-card on my birthday and that was so appreciated. Thank you!Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01482104257045322117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-62923581262243398712007-10-23T11:36:00.000-07:002007-10-23T11:36:00.000-07:00OK I know I am a total cow, I have been quite for ...OK I know I am a total cow, I have been quite for all this time. But still Happy Birthday (again)! Gros Bisous.CGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555431785204713112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-82590436361208861332007-10-22T22:30:00.000-07:002007-10-22T22:30:00.000-07:00happy birthday:):):)i'm so glad you had such a won...happy birthday:):):)<BR/><BR/>i'm so glad you had such a wonderful day, you soo deserve it:) life is good huh:) having the people who love you, celebrate you!<BR/><BR/>happy birthday to you:) from all of us!Kim/Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13329990814265186539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-34288172661642979642007-10-20T07:49:00.000-07:002007-10-20T07:49:00.000-07:00HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!Cavalockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14180674877360799676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-82595977748263574112007-10-19T11:47:00.000-07:002007-10-19T11:47:00.000-07:00Happy belated birthday B! Hope the next year is fi...Happy belated birthday B! Hope the next year is filled with many more joys, experiences, victories, and realized dreams.La Page Françaisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17078674372624671196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-84893526832970675512007-10-19T09:42:00.000-07:002007-10-19T09:42:00.000-07:00Happy (belated) Birthday!Hopefully you are feeling...Happy (belated) Birthday!<BR/>Hopefully you are feeling up--but the song this week was posted with your melancholy mood in mind.<BR/><BR/>j.e.j.elliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300864295689521430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27133722.post-31969667057404991452007-10-18T09:05:00.000-07:002007-10-18T09:05:00.000-07:00Happy belated birthday!You realize, that to me, yo...Happy belated birthday!<BR/><BR/>You realize, that to me, you seem so-o-o-o-o young (and I am only a decade older) and only 3 weeks younger than my brother.<BR/><BR/>I am glad to hear you had a great time. You mention solitude as one of your interests. While there is nothing wrong with solitude and I think you enjoyed a quiet birthday in Paris, I really don't think you are the solitary type person. <BR/><BR/>It is also good to hear you have a mom who goes out extra for her kids. Mine did too. Sometimes it is sad to realize that a lot of people don't have moms like that.<BR/><BR/><I>"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present"</I> – Marcus Aurelius<BR/><BR/>I don't understand why, but after many, many years, I have learned that women really appreciate (or get freaked out by) the presentation of <A HREF="http://image57.webshots.com/457/4/71/58/2845471580029210395wetSGS_fs.jpg" REL="nofollow">flowers</A>, more so than any other gift item..Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08466885792177930052noreply@blogger.com